Another one from Liz:, this time concerning parents who believe their children are ‘entitled’ to an A or B in a class.
Maybe I am one of those. I’ll let you judge whether I am or not.
My daughter’s report card arrived over the weekend. She is a mostly-A, occasional B student in honors classes. She does all of her homework, classwork, is on time and receives outstanding citizenship grades.
This is her first year of middle school and she has worked especially hard in circumstances that are less than ideal. The honors program at this school is unchallenging and uninteresting — at least in the English/History piece. I have encouraged her to keep at her usual standard of good work and use this time to learn to adjust to different “management styles”, figuring that real life will deal her a hand that’s often less than perfect and it’ll be up to her to figure out how to make it work.
When the report card arrived, she had C’s in English and History. This came as a surprise, along with the comment that excessive absences affected her grade. I was a little incredulous, considering that she’d done all of her homework before she left for Ireland, kept a blog (fixing the spelling and grammar when she had more computer face time to do it), did a report and turned in a video for that time she was gone.
Not wanting to be an obnoxious parent, I emailed the teacher and asked her if she could possibly provide me with a breakdown of her grades. The reply I received made my jaw drop.
Test scores: Solid A
Homework: Solid A
Class Participation: D, because of absences. with the comment that she could not possibly be given a higher grade when she was not in class or even in the country to participate. (Her history and english teacher are the same, BTW)
Net grade: C
Help me out here. Shouldn’t a grade reflect a student’s mastery of the material they’ve been assigned to learn?
The message they sent my daughter was that hard work and mastery of the required material is not grounds for an A.
The message they sent me is that they’d rather reward the student who underperforms on tests and homework but has a high rate of class participation, so that the grades do not accurately reflect what they have mastered and are therefore meaningless.
I’m pissed about this. Really pissed. So pissed, in fact that I’m considering the possibility of switching to a different middle school inside the district where the honors program is more challenging and fair.
So there it is — am I being an ‘entitlement parent’ or do I have a legitimate complaint? Should I just bite my tongue and ride the rest of the year in the hopes that next year will be better or should I consider a transfer for the fall to a different school?
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