Mom was right about Little League

Posted by Karoli in News, Video May 28th, 2008

It teaches sportsmanship? Not so much.

Of course, parents set the precedent for this stuff, pundits and politicians reinforce it (there’s all sorts of ways to deliver a sucker punch), so I’m cynically unsurprised when kids do it. Just sad, is all.

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Beyond the Rant - Protesting Alex Barton

Posted by Karoli in Education, Health, News, Parenting May 27th, 2008

According to Liz, Wendy Portillo has been reassigned. She also has a great post up with much more constructive suggestions to voice your opinion and protest than my rant does.

You can also find a listing of posts at Whitterer on Autism in support of Alex and his family.

I’m still at a loss to understand how any right-thinking teacher could have not only allowed, but engineered this.

Update: 7:19PM From the comments, you can find a more complete list of bloggers here, and you can sign a petition here to request this teacher’s termination.

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Voting the Autistic Kid Off the Island

Posted by Karoli in Education, Health May 25th, 2008

Since when did Kindergarten become Survivor: Florida? And since when did it become some sort of twisted democracy, where children were not only allowed, but encouraged, to speak their minds about their dislike of a classmate and then vote him out of class?

Well, in Port St. Lucie, Florida, it happened.

PORT ST. LUCIE — Melissa Barton said she is considering legal action after her son’s kindergarten teacher led his classmates to vote him out of class.

After each classmate was allowed to say what they didn’t like about Barton’s 5-year-old son, Alex, his Morningside Elementary teacher Wendy Portillo said they were going to take a vote, Barton said.

By a 14 to 2 margin, the students voted Alex — who is in the process of being diagnosed with autism — out of the class.

Here are some of the words his classmates used to describe him, before they made him walk the Kindergarten plank:

The other students said he was “disgusting” and “annoying,” Barton said.

“He was incredibly upset,” Barton said. “The only friend he has ever made in his life was forced to do this.”

I have some questions about this. Let’s start with this one:

WHY IS THIS TEACHER ALLOWED TO CONTINUE TEACHING?

Let’s see if I have this straight. A teacher allows 16 5-year olds to: a) articulate their feelings and dislikes for another child; and b) vote him out of the classroom? Look at what sparked it:

Steele said the boy had been sent to the principal’s office because of disciplinary issues. When he returned, Portillo made him go to the front of the room as a form of punishment, she said.

Oh, and being ever the compassionate pseudo-psychiatrist-cum-evil-teacher-from-hell, she did allow poor Alex a confessional after booting him off the island:

Barton said after the vote, Portillo asked Alex how he felt.

“He said, ‘I feel sad,’ ” Barton said.

Alex left the classroom and spent the rest of the day in the nurse’s office, she said.

In case you’re wondering, Alex hasn’t been back to school since then. He’s been traumatized. Here are some of the consequences of Teacher Ratchet’s little exercise in community spewing:

Alex hasn’t been back to school since then, and Barton said he won’t be returning. He starts screaming when she brings him with her to drop off his sibling at school.

Thursday night, his mother heard him saying “I’m not special” over and over.

Ya know what, Bitch-teacher-from-hell-Portillo-Ratchet-Asperger’s-hating-child-abuser? Let’s bring you up before a group of your peers so they can tell you how much you suck for treating this boy — a child who clearly has behavior and esteem problems — like a sack of shit in front of his peers at an age where he’s unlikely to forget it anytime soon.

Listen up, Portillo. My most vivid memories are of kindergarten, and being smacked across the knuckles with a ruler in front of the whole kindergarten class for daring to speak when not spoken to. My most vivid memories include being beaten up on the playground in KINDERGARTEN, for god’s sake.

My most vivid parenting memories involve being called into school to justify my son’s fight for the right to breathe when a bully put him in a chokehold in first grade, and the only way he could escape was to bite the bully, leaving him branded for the next five years as a hyperactive, at-risk troublemaker while the bully, nearly twice his size, swaggered away scot-free.

Portillo, you’re nothing more than a poorly trained excuse for an authoritarian bitch who shouldn’t be anywhere near children, much less teaching them. If the school district doesn’t see this as child abuse, they’re as ignorant as you are, because it clearly is.

Just so this isn’t anything more than a rant, let me offer some suggestions to you, Portillo. Take some classes in child development, autism and Asperger’s syndrome. Learn some creative ways to build these children up rather than tearing them down. Learn to UNDERSTAND that what you do now will MATTER to them 10 years from now, that you are forming their attitudes toward school, peers, social relationships, and authority.

What you did to this child was to say that the opinions of his peers matter more than the authority of the teacher. You taught him and all of the other children that it was okay to criticize, rather than understand, how it is to deal with a disability. You stood in front of that class and allowed 16 children to consider another child a worthless waste of effort.

Worse still, you abrogated your authority to sixteen 5-year olds.

You ought to be fired, brought up on charges of abuse, and sued for every damn dime you have.

And to the principal of that school? Screw you. Screw you for not standing up for this child when you discovered what the teacher had done. Screw you for allowing any child in your school to be treated with such a lack of respect. Screw you for not understanding how devastating this was.

And finally, to his parents, I am hoping there is a way through this that undoes this damage. Perhaps a public apology to him in front of the classroom and all of the other kindergartners and all of the other teachers would be a start. I hope you can find a way clear to help him understand that he can take something like this and overcome it.

I’m not sure, though. Because that vote — that vote is so horrible to even imagine, that I can’t imagine getting over it anytime soon, Asperger’s or otherwise.

Portillo, you’re evil.

Photo courtesy of the Barton family

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Shoes on the back of a Nordstrom box

Posted by Karoli in Art, Home, Parenting May 22nd, 2008

Shoes on the back of a Nordstrom box

Today was the annual chalk festival and art show for DG’s school. Last year she didn’t make it into the chalk festival but she did this year. This isn’t her chalk drawing, though. This was a quick painting she did on the back of a Nordstrom gift box. She didn’t have a surface until she discovered the cardboard inside, which was perfectly toned for this black and white wonder.

Stepping into Mom brag mode for a minute, I just have to say I was totally impressed with it. Just a couple of hours made a work of art. Her teacher was also impressed, and hung it with paintings done on other, more permanent surfaces for the show. Her reference photo is also her blog header.

Not bad, eh? Here’s the chalk painting:

Eye'm Watching

The funniest part of this was seeing her when she got home. She had from 7:30 AM to 3:30 PM to complete this, start to finish. She packed up her backpack with water, food, old t-shirts for blending, and her reference photo. When I dropped her off, she was my usual pretty, clean, sweet-looking girl. When I picked her up, she looked like she had crawled out of a chimney. Seriously.

Worse yet, she had rolled the cuffs on her jeans and forgotten to put sunscreen on the exposed part, so she now has the weirdest stripes on her legs where her socks end and her cuffs began! Oh, and another tiger stripe on her back from bending over to blend and having the shirt ride up enough to leave a 2″ lobster-red strip of sunburn. Poor thing was in mega-pain, but still said it was worth every minute.

It certainly was to me. They only choose five from each art class, plus the honors art students for this. She didn’t make it in last year, so this was a real triumph.

I’m so grateful for teachers like her yearbook/art teacher! When I see what she’s accomplished in such a short period of time, it just knocks me over.

Oh, and did I mention that she’s taking drum lessons? Yep…and not from Sticks either. That would be an unmitigated disaster. She’s taking them from his first drum teacher, and seems to enjoy it.

So just about the time Sticks moves out, she’ll graduate to the drumset. You heard it here first.

(Oh, and the pink ribbon is in memory of the mom of one of her friends, who passed away earlier in the school year from breast cancer. Tragic, but neat to see the kids all support their friend and remember her mother.)

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Possibilities

Posted by Karoli in Photography May 20th, 2008

Hope

BlogHer’s Exclusive with Barack Obama

Posted by Karoli in News, Politics May 18th, 2008

BlogHer’s Erin Kotecki Vest aka QueenofSpain scored an exclusive interview with Barack Obama in Oregon yesterday.

Senator Obama is the first presidential candidate to accept BlogHer’s invitation to address their audience of 1800+ bloggers on the issues most important to them. Last year, BlogHer compiled a list of 12 questions for the candidates ranging in topic from Iraq to health care. In the video, Barack addresses those concerns directly.

Beyond the video, there is the clear message that this candidate respects and understands women’s concerns and rather than minimizing or dismissing them, has chosen to give up a chunk of his valuable time three days ahead of two pivotal primaries to address the concerns of women, mothers, grandmothers, and daughters across this country. Congratulations to BlogHer and Erin for their effort and to Barack Obama for honoring it.

(crossposted on Bang the Drum)

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Lori Drew Indicted by Los Angeles Grand Jury

Posted by Karoli in News, Web May 15th, 2008

Lori Drew has been indicted on one count of conspiracy and three counts of accessing protected computers for her role in Megan Meier’s suicide.

Wow, after spending most of my adult life criticizing the Los Angeles District Attorney, I am now applauding with hands, feet, voice and everything else that makes noise. While these charges are peripheral to the outcome of her actions, they still send a clear message to anyone who would brutalize another, especially a CHILD, online.

Kudos, and I’ll be watching for the trial.


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Fried Egg Flower

Posted by Karoli in Photography May 14th, 2008

Fried Egg Flower


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