It’s hard for this optimist to believe that people are insane enough with their hatefest to actually mock someone else’s cancer diagnosis or worse yet, to suggest it’s not true at all, but when it comes to Jessica @vdaze & Co, I expected it. Ordinarily I just ignore their daily obsessive idiocy, but since they’re actually making statements that could have an impact on others’ decisions to take the preventive measures needed to prevent death from one of the most curable cancers there is, I’ve decided to address it.
OsborneInk has more, but here is one of the images from his post:
Because Matt (@Shoq) chose not to tweet out his diagnosis beyond a general cancer diagnosis at first, the Hate Brigade jumped on the bandwagon right away with their mockery, and those of us who knew what was going on chose to ignore it as much as possible out of respect for his privacy. Now he’s willing to talk about his specific diagnosis publicly. Given that, it’s time to fact-check and maybe even reality-check Jessica’s deluded cancer truther trip.
1. Prostate cancer is curable IF it’s treated early
When doctors see a rising PSA test in men over the age of 50, it’s cause for concern. When PSA levels triple over a three-month period, action is warranted, particularly in cases where a direct family member (in this case, Matt’s father) has died of cancer.
Unfortunately, too many men shy away from even being tested even when they have symptoms, resulting in far too many advanced prostate cancers that are life-threatening.
2. Elevated PSA tests do not always mean it’s cancer
Here’s where things get tricky. After two elevated PSA tests, Matt was told they had to do a biopsy in order to confirm that it was, in fact, cancer. That biopsy came back with a clear indication of cancer cells, which left Matt weighing his treatment options. Every treatment for prostate cancer carries risks and side effects which can be unpleasant. It’s not a decision to weigh lightly, nor is it one that should be taken lightly.
After diving into all of the literature and talking to a number of people about his options, including his health insurance carrier, Matt opted for robotic surgery. Luckily for him, one of the best robotic surgeons in the world happens to practice medicine in Florida.
Matt opted for the surgery, for several reasons. There was his family history. Also, prostate cancers are elusive to actually see, even in CAT scans or MRIs. Surgery would enable his surgeon to not only remove the prostate, but also to visually examine the area and remove any tumor that had extended beyond the prostate gland with the assistance of highly developed robotic technology.
3. Some cancers are not easily visible to the naked eye
This may come as a shock to Matt’s detractors, but not all cancers pop out as lumps or simple tumors. Also? Prostate cancer is very different from breast cancer or uterine cancer or ovarian cancer, and it is no less deadly. Diagnostic tools are still primitive, treatments are limited, and there’s no guarantee anything will be easily visible at the time of the surgery. Biopsies help, but until the surgeon sees that area, performs the surgery, and does a microscopic examination of the entire zone, no pronouncements can be made. In Matt’s case, he was told it seemed the cancer was limited to the prostate (now removed), but he would have to be monitored every three months for certainty, likely for the rest of his life.
4. Cancer is no laughing matter
Prostate cancer kills men. It is the second highest cancer killer of men. It’s not something to laugh at or second-guess. It’s not something to mock. I’ve lost one family member to cancer in the last year too soon and too suddenly, I’ve seen friends fight cancer with everything they’ve got because they want to live more than they want their hair or their breast or even their prostate, and they deserve respect.
Just stop and imagine that you have been told there is This Thing, this mass of cells that has somehow gone awry and That Thing can grow inside of your body until it kills you just like It killed your father all those years ago. Your options are injection of radioactive seeds or surgery, but you have to do something because if you don’t The Thing will win and everything you’ve done with your life will. end. that. fast.
It’s not funny. It’s not a lie. Who are these people to presume they have the right to question another person’s health, no matter how deep their vein of hate may run?
Mocking someone who is recovering from cancer surgery goes right up there near the top of the list of heartless despicable acts. Those who choose to join the mockery should be sure to inform all of their friends that they think cancer is something funny, something to mock, something to laugh at, so those friends can decide how much of that bullshit they want to participate in, or maybe reject like some others did. No one is exempt, after all. The Thing is undiscriminating. It likes random people’s breasts, skin, ovaries, lungs, and bones. It hungers for them. Is that how they want to be treated, if The Thing should choose them?
Or is it just Matt’s cancer they think is funny?
No matter what the answer is to that question, Jessica et al’s mockery says far more about her and her moral code (or lack of one) than it says about Matt.
My advice to her so-called “friends”, including the one who sent Matt Osborne her tweets? Watch your back. When she decides she hates you, she’ll be happy to mock you too. No low is too low for Ms. Jessica/@vdaze.
One last thing. Jessica has ceded any moral standing she had for crying abuse. Even if one were to overlook the past six months, her cynical, comic-book cutout hatefest which has culminated in cancer trutherism disqualifies her from being taken seriously. Go look at this definition and figure out who is abusing, and who is abused.
Jessica, just drop the account you use to stalk Matt and walk away now, before you humiliate yourself more than you already have.
Update and PostScript: Jessica has bravely suspended her Twitter account. I could almost understand that. I’d be ashamed of myself too if I did that, but she could simply have deleted her tweets. What slays me is how she and her merry band of cancer truthers have translated being caught into the “mean Shoq” narrative somehow. It must have taken some serious practice to manage that so skillfully.
What follows is my response to that and also adding a fact I left out in order to satisfy Those Who Are Sure They Know All:
For the record: To @dkronin and @chickgonebad: While I realize that you two are the hidden gems of medicine who know all and more, the fact is that his mother was there. Because someone had to be for the first two days. Now she’s gone home. Ok?
My response to the nonsense: It is truly remarkable to watch the peanut gallery go on about how telling the truth is somehow an act of bullying.
Humility would suggest the right thing to do when caught being a self-serving lying bitch is simply apologize for one’s vile behavior, but it appears the right wing habit of simply projecting onto others is in full force. Poor persecuted Jessica…driven away because of Mean Matty Osborne’s obsession with writing true things. With facts and everything. DAMMIT.
Screw you people. No one typed that stuff for her. She did it all by herself, and you all cheered her on because…@vdaze fan club. No one held a gun to her head and forced her to “call bullshit.” There is absolutely no depth too low for her to plumb in her quest for hate. None whatsoever. No one forced Jessica to ridicule him or his cancer. He hasn’t mentioned her name in MONTHS. He brushed the dust from his feet and moved on, because honestly, life is too damned short to worry about someone insanely obsessed with perpetuating hate day after day after day the way you people do.
What exactly will satisfy you? Would you like a copy of his hospital bill, or a video of the surgery? Do you need to receive a telephone call from his doctor? Or do you just wish him dead?
You people suck. Every last one of you. I don’t care WHAT you think he’s done to you in the past.
Not one of you, including some who actually do have health issues, has had their health problems ridiculed by him. Not one of you. Not one.
Other than the five people who actually care and suck up to Jessica on a nightly basis, the twitterverse is sick of this fuckwittery. So am I. This post was written to counteract the fact that ridiculing a very real diagnosis that too many men fear is evil, vile and ignorant, so I countered with facts. Deal with it.
Birthers and truthers. Ain’t it grand?